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Feeling unfaithful can provoke different responses in people, especially with regard to the emergence of feelings such as guilt or frustration. What common traits or feelings can we find in committing an infidelity?
Men and women
According to several studies, men and women, in addition to having several points in common when committing an infidelity, also present some differences, especially in terms of feeling unfaithful.
For men, the feeling of infidelity is accompanied by guilt. For religious people, guilt acquires a very important nuance, as it implies a situation of sin.
But for other people, guilt is tied to others’ social judgment of them. The fear of losing a job for maintaining an infidelity also involves guilt, including dedicating time and financial resources to a lover also generates feelings of guilt. Maintaining a relationship of infidelity, in the case of men, costs them time and money, in addition to costing them peace of mind.
In women, the reactions are different. Usually, infidelity is usually seen as a love affair, where they only find moments of fun. They feel as if they are being reborn as they feel wanted and loved. At the beginning of the infidelity relationship, they do all kinds of exercises and rituals to feel more beautiful and attractive, and may start going to the gym, hairdresser, beauty salons, and even buying clothes and trying not to repeat the same pieces. . It is as if they have started to value self-esteem again due to the seduction game they are involved in, even if the other person is in a relationship.
The guilt and frustration of being unfaithful
Gradually, for both men and women, the feeling of guilt is intrinsically accompanied by doses of anxiety and stress, constituting other personality traits of the unfaithful person.
Perhaps it is in men that anxiety can be controlled over time, when they believe they have the situation under control. On the other hand, signs of anxiety in women are one of the indicators that most denounce them. But we can also add to the anxiety the worries of being found out, the fear of having children, of being jealous, etc. In addition to guilt, another common feeling in infidelity is frustration.
We can even hear comments from unfaithful people that the relationship between lovers is the “perfect” relationship for a couple, as they exercise love at all levels and do not have to tolerate illnesses, responsibilities, bad moods, shared lives , etc. But on the other hand, infidelity has consequences such as separations, divorces, or a loss of trust that is difficult to recover, somewhat reducing the quality of the couple’s relationship.
Therefore, it is important to be aware of what you are doing and to think about the repercussions that this may have, not only for ourselves, but also for the people around us, and try to make the most appropriate decision.
