Change The Habit… Talk About Your Joys!

What if we started today to change some little customs? Let’s start the day with the simple purpose of talking only about the good things, the positive aspects of life and this gift that now surrounds you.

Do you find this complicated? But it ‘s possible, even though sometimes talking about negative things is quite common among all of us. Common and even functional. “Do you see how bad things are?” “I don’t know what to do with so-and-so, more and more he makes my life hell”, “You’re right, it’s very difficult to change my situation”.

Sometimes it seems that the problems of some and the daily dramas of others join forces to create a kind of vicious circle, in which promoting change and improvement seems to be impossible, which ends up distorting reality even more. And that’s not healthy.

Talking about your joys and the good things in your life is not being selfish or turning a blind eye to difficulties; it’s an attitude, a more constructive vision that can help us more in our daily lives. Let’s try to understand this a little better.

Talking about your joys doesn’t mean ignoring the sadness

Talking about your joys doesn’t mean ignoring your sadness.

“Look on the bright side of things”.  This is not just the typical slogan of any self-help manual. It is also a daily support that does not let us fall into the stumbling blocks of life and helps us to stand up in the most diverse situations in our daily lives.

Let’s think about this for a moment: It’s possible that many of us have been through difficult times, and we may even be experiencing it now. However, if you focus your daily life on negativity, there will be no way to move forward, there will be no solution.

And we have to be careful, as negativity is like a sticking and choking disease. And not only that, sometimes it is even contagious. How many times have we had to run away from that family member or friend who used to make us an endless list of their problems? Keeping a “safe” distance from these people isn’t being selfish, it’s a simple act of survival.

Focusing our vision on the positive and talking about our joys burns us from the inside and, at the same time, brings positivity to those we talk to and live with. This may seem difficult at times; there are days when talking about our joys is almost an impossible task, but I guarantee it is a truly healthy exercise for the body and also for the emotions. Grief hurts, sadness drowns, and in negativism there is a very damaging dose of anger. We have to go carefully.

How to focus my reality on joys every day

How can I define my everyday life on the positive and joyful side when I don’t really feel that way? It’s not easy, we have to be honest, so it’s important that you try to apply these simpler strategies first.

1. Immerse yourself in your worries, your sorrows. Understand them and see what their “form” is, what causes them, and what you can do to deal with them. If you cannot resolve them, for example, in cases of loss, disappointment, betrayal or a simple “goodbye”, let them go as soon as possible, then… let go .
2. Eliminate negative talk. All of us occasionally fall into these obsessive thoughts that make us think negative and fatalistic things. Avoid them; they are useless!
3. Build positive affirmations : today will be my day, today I will make things much better, today I will feel good…
4. Turn negative statements into positive: From “I’m a loser” to “I’m someone who deserves the best”.
5. Focus on the present: don’t put off your well-being and happiness until tomorrow, or “when I have this…”. Don’t wait, enjoy your present moment, be happy here and now, enjoy your joys every day and every moment.