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We are human beings belonging to a society we didn’t choose, a society where the songs speak of how much people love each other, how much they need each other, and how idyllic it is to have someone. In children’s movies we see how princes save princesses from dragons so that they can be THEIR queens, where it is almost mandatory for both to be one person. But… where does FREEDOM, independence, the individual project fit in?
A house, a piece of furniture, a computer or even a pet can belong to you, but not a person. The human being belongs to himself, to the universe and to his life experiences. No one has the right to take your identity and clip your wings.
How do we survive “romantic” relationships
In the last two hundred years we can see how the romantic concept of love was established, of completing oneself, of being just one and making each other’s day unique by being by their side.
You meet a person and everything is wonderful, everything is new in the first few months, every gesture, every word, every place. You don’t want to be separated from this person for anything in this world, you start to create dynamics together, where you used to be one. This is wonderful, but time passes and the dynamics are in danger of becoming needs, so that everything you do without the other is interpreted as selfishness.
Here’s the mistake, we need to be rational enough, within the irrational that love brings, not to lose our freedom, to be aware of individual activities, our own friends and moments of loneliness, because love also needs all that .
Conversation is the best way to promote independence
In order to promote freedom and independence, it is important to maintain healthy and functional communication. It shouldn’t be a problem to let your partner know your plans. It’s not healthy to have to think about how to negotiate what you want to do, as if it were a bargain, the relationship is not a business, it must be a place of trust and understanding where we must bring out the best of both.
When discussing the relationship, keep in mind, on both sides, that you don’t just talk to your partner, you talk to your partner and your life experience. It is good that two attitudes come into play here. On the one hand, the understanding that you have to adapt to yourself, as perhaps in the past you have experienced things that made you suspicious and afraid. From another perspective, it is necessary to understand that ahead you do not have your past, but a new person who will provide you with a new future and will be wonderful for both of you.
Enjoying each other, sharing quality time and freedom
It is possible to find the greatest freedom when we take advantage of our time and increase its quality, as well as when we are grateful for the time that others dedicate to us. By generating this current, we can value the person we have by our side and every gesture she has with us, without believing that you are obliged to do it because it is what society dictates to your role in a relationship.
Therefore, as a conclusion, it would be good to remember that for a couple space is vital, both what is shared and what is private. In fact, it is more likely that favoring the particular also enriches what is shared. Missing, feeling the need for the other or taking time to reflect are examples of these activities that can add a lot to your relationship and are difficult to feel or do if you spend all of your time together.
