If We Feed Children With Love, Fears Will Starve To Death

If We Feed Children With Love, Fears Will Starve To Death

The most interesting thing about taking on our children’s emotional education is that through it we change the chemistry of their brains, that is, we are offering them the possibility to control their biology.

The pervasive and negative influence of the media, misguided educational practices and lack of respect in schools or society are diminishing our children’s emotional capacities.

We can accept that it is inevitable that certain types of social change will take place, but what we have in our hands are tools to enhance your emotional health. What can we do? It’s very simple, let’s see…

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May a smile serve you as an umbrella

Knowing that serotonin is the main hormone in regulating our mood, we can help our brain to produce it in a natural way. To regulate your body levels, you just need to maintain a healthy diet, sleep an adequate amount of hours every night, and exercise regularly.

In other words,  to have a correct emotional health we must implement these habits in our daily lives. In this way, we will get our brains in the ideal conditions to avoid the energy overloads that arise from stress and fears.

It is worth pointing out, as a curiosity, that renowned researchers claim that asking our children to smile and telling them that things will get better is truly helpful. In fact, humans can balance serotonin levels with a simple smile.

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Play is children’s work  

What we’ve discussed so far should confirm the idea that the little things are very important.  If there is one way we can articulate children’s emotional learning, it is through play.

The best way to teach them skills that allow them to manage their emotions is through play, as we will be able to provide them with the opportunity to learn and practice new ways of feeling, thinking and acting.

Furthermore, we can become an integral part of the emotional learning process in a tremendously efficient way. In fact, once we introduce an engaging dynamic, the curiosity and repetition that children have and ask for will do the rest of the work.

If we articulate a series of games of this type or others, such as puppets, relaxation or body exploration, we will get children to acquire the necessary skills to manage their emotions.

This will also help them to develop self-knowledge,  which will stimulate their interest in working on aspects whose complexity is not yet understood. Thanks to this, we will foster the development of a healthy self-esteem supported by self-respect.

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Keys to Increasing Children’s Emotional Skills

As we’ve said before, it’s sometimes very simple to get our kids to grow up in a balanced way. Just feed them with love and their fears and emotional problems starve to death. Here’s how we can do this in 3 simple steps…

1. Offer a home, a place where they feel protected and sheltered

A home is created from the emotions of the people who make it up. The hundreds of toys in their rooms are useless if we don’t share our love with them through loving and caring gestures.

2. Talking to them in a loving way

When children do something wrong or behave aggressively, we are used to employing rejection strategies. Some examples are saying “I don’t love you anymore” or “You’re too mean”. However, in this way they will not understand that what is wrong is what they did, and not their self-worth.

For this reason, the messages that we must give them are of the type “It’s not right what you did”. Thus, we will not lower their self-esteem or question our feelings for them.

3. Give them our time, our interest and the desire to take advantage of the challenges they pose to us

What our children see in us, for them, is not present in anyone else. Therefore, it is essential to dedicate our time and our genuine interest to them, and to offer a view of their world in a loving and unconditional way.

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