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It’s often said that interesting people are as scarce as pure diamonds that dazzle just by looking in their direction. You don’t have to go that far or be too exaggerated. We’re sure you also have some adventurous accomplices. Companions of unforgettable moments and faithful builders of positive emotions. Those that make us grow on the inside and smile on the outside.
We all have our secrets and our virtues. And we are all, without a doubt, interesting in our own way. But between being interesting and being interested, there is an ocean of storms and rough seas.
How many times have you had to deal with interested people in your day to day? They are present in many everyday relationships, from social to personal. And no, it’s not about cutting ties, about closing doors for these types of personalities.
It’s just about knowing how to manage the emotions they cause in us, setting limits, making people see, living in peace and knowing how to say “enough” when necessary.
Interesting people who teach me to be better
Life should be a continuous exchange of affections, knowledge and experiences. So we all win, we add and we won’t lack anything. However, it cannot always be that way.
The connection with interesting people happens at the same moment, even without knowing exactly why. They appear in our lives and we feel an almost immediate union in terms of ideas, passions and hobbies. Our worlds collide and we both win. In general terms, we can define them as follows:
- Interesting people add their pieces to the puzzle of our values and passions. These connections establish a series of positive emotions.
- They expand our mind, bring us more knowledge, change our point of view and enrich us.
- The change is not just one-sided, the benefit is mutual. We also contribute, offer, receive and establish continuous learning through experiences, experiences that further strengthen the friendship or relationship.
It’s not easy to find one or several people who fit perfectly with our lines of thought, passions and interests. In fact, interesting people, instead of “fitting in”, often do is challenge us, offer us new things, and so we grow.
We all need this magic that occasionally reaches the outside and that takes us out of the direction our lives follow to explore new forms of knowledge. They are very stimulating personalities, who at the same time also share the same values and, in this way, a subtle balance is born.
How to treat interested people
We live with interested people every day and, obviously, it is not always easy and we do not always want to break this relationship. It may be that it is always our parents who end up sharpening this implicit selfishness, or even that co-worker who always manipulates us with his subtle interests…
Those who are used to always looking for their own benefit in their relationships run the risk of ending up living in absolute solitude. And without a shadow of a doubt, for reasons of inner balance and even health, we should surround ourselves with interesting people instead of interested ones, even if it is often difficult to escape from them. What can we do? How should we treat them?
– Do not give in to small acts or you will end up resulting in big renunciations.
– Never say “yes” to something you don’t want to do, no matter how insignificant. When doing this, when saying “no”, it is common for the other person to feel surprised and even offended. However, we must make clear from the outset what our limits are.
– It is common for interested people to end up resorting to emotional blackmail. “If you don’t, it’s because you don’t like me.” Don’t allow it, emotional blackmail is a kind of implicit abuse and as such it should make you see it. “If you really like me, you won’t ask me to.”
– You must pay attention to every word and every act. Interested people are usually very subtle in their actions, hence the need to be alert not to let themselves be carried away by their wills, by their disguised selfishness, which sometimes live “wrapped in paper as a gift”.
Images courtesy of Jiwoon Pak and Yimin Yoon
