Learn To Appreciate The Good Times In Life

Being and living in the present brings incredible benefits. However, enjoying the good times in life remains a difficult task.

We see this in patients who go to psychological offices, when they present anxiety as the protagonist of their lives, or talk about how sadness has been integrated into its shadow.

Furthermore, we also detect this difficulty in common and shared habits. Have you noticed this? How about learning to appreciate the good times in life?

We remember with nostalgia the past, those moments when we laughed so hard that ‘the belly hurt’, and others that we would like to be eternal. We imagine and make a thousand plans for tomorrow, hoping that they will be perfect and unique, which also requires arduous preparation.

So we spend time remembering and imagining, immersed in the memory of what has already happened.

the anguish of the past

We have to recognize that we all get stuck in the past at one time or another. No problem, after all we are human beings and, as such, we define ourselves based on our memories.

As long as we live, it is tempting to go back to the past when we do not find stimuli of positive sensations in the present. Thus, we cling to the good times (the good memories) as if they were our most precious treasure.

The problem arises when the desire to stay in the past ends up obstructing our growth. In this way, we fight a battle that will potentially harm our psychological health, especially when we obsessively relive the past.

Thus, there are memories that awaken in us emotions that generate great discomfort. We talk about sadness and guilt, which undermine our attitude, especially if we don’t know how to manage them.

The uncertainty of a future to be built

We’ve all experienced this mental cycle. Thoughts follow one after the other continually, and this causes excessive concern for the future.

This habit, widespread in today’s society and framed in the prevailing lifestyle, condemns our mind to spend resources in a continuous state of alert.

The future frightens, and fear is born inspired by the imaginary design of the “most terrible threats”. We speak of a strategy that, as a species, we often use to survive.

However, this strategy fails when we are unable to generate some degree of tolerance for uncertainty or use anticipation to develop prevention strategies and reduce anxiety.

Here and now: our action scenario

The only reality that we can change with behavior is today. That’s where life happens, that’s what happens now as you’re reading these lines. We can only enjoy every moment we experience, because in the end life is made up of that, of little moments.

As we travel into the past and future, it is important that we use our ability to objectively recognize the obstacles that lead to them.

Therefore, it is essential to learn to disconnect our emotions from the situation and identify new paths to continue moving forward. One of the keys to achieving this is to put yourself in the present tense and enjoy the good times in life.

We know this is much easier said than done, but with practice we can all incorporate this behavior into our repertoire. The first step may be to embrace the idea that it’s okay to have change our way.

Life is made up of changes and evolution and, from the present moment, we will build the future.

Francisco Alcaide, in his books and lectures on leadership and administration, speaks clearly about how we can manage our emotions and take control of our lives:

• Look at the past with gratitude.
• Enjoy the gift with enthusiasm.
• Build the future with hope.

And for you who are reading this article, I say you are where you need to be… to enjoy the good times in life.

Enjoy the good moments of life

We often need to stop the inertia of our focus of attention and redirect its leaps. Stopping this turmoil, or at least the pernicious self-talk we may be accustomed to, is critical.

Only from this posture will we be able to adopt a perspective that will allow us to dive headlong into the present moment.

For that, we can turn to mindfulness. It’s a technique that helps you become fully aware of the present moment. This will give us the necessary calm to respond, not just react, to circumstances that arise.

We just have to stop and think about each of the moments that make up our lives, and if we look closely, the best ones are those tinged by chance. We didn’t look for them, but we found them while we lived, in the here and now.