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When we see photos or comments from our contacts on social media, we may think that our life is boring and has nothing to offer… that’s why we do our best to be like the rest and publish thousands of photos to tell of our adventures out there. However, are the lives of others really as wonderful as they reflect on social media? Is it worth having a “busy” social life?
For example, couples who constantly “inform” their acquaintances that they are in love and cannot live without each other, are actually insecure and jealous. They need to shout from the rooftops to “simulate” perfection or invent a confirmation that is nothing more than a reflection of life itself.
Why does everyone have a better social life than mine?
Publications of happy couples in love that hide marital crises, people making selfies in all parts of the world showing perhaps only loneliness, self-help phrases or self-improvement that intend to teach a lesson in pedagogy, so that these absolute judgments can be laws.
Unfortunately, when seeing these messages our brain goes through a sigh of envy because it understands that others are more fun, have fantastic lives, found true love or experience unique sensations. However, under all that shine, is there really gold?
Spending hours and hours in front of social networks can plunge us into a state of melancholy, something that is especially harmful when we do it with a comparative attitude and taking the self as a reference. If we feel that the world owes us something, which is not true, we will increase this feeling if we have the perception that others are doing very well. So looking at other people’s profiles can heighten our sense of being a victim.
The lives of others is not what they draw on their social networks
Do you think it’s impossible not to connect daily to this platform that supposedly reports the latest news from those around you? According to a study by a Danish institute, using Facebook in this way makes us unhappy. For the survey, a group of participants did not open their profiles for a week; they admitted that they felt less stressed and more focused on their work or studies.
Those who do not use or do not have profiles on these pages enjoy the day in another way. They have more time to rest, exercise, finish chores early, cook dinner or clean the house. As if that wasn’t enough, being oblivious to a social network leads us to talk to those next to us, see in person the ones we love or call family and friends more often.
The result of this test gives us something to think about: “We are continually reading good news and wonderful things in the profiles of others and this makes us compare and get depressed. The words or images that appear are not always right, as the world of social media is based on showing others our best version, a distorted image of who we really are”.
Facebook happiness is made up
This phrase should be used as a mantra whenever we feel depressed after seeing nice posts and posts on social media. Why do we say that happiness there is not true?
Very simple: because it is an image selected and, in many cases, manipulated within all the ones that surrounded the moment of this photo. It’s not an image placed in that place at random, just one that the person who published it likes, so that, at best, they can only let us know what they like.
On the other hand, think that whoever takes the time to take a photo at a certain moment, somehow fails to enjoy that moment. He leaves the stage, the scene, and stands on it as a spectator, while on stage he leaves only a kind of reflection of his life.
What happens on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram is somehow separate from the real and the authentic; it’s more of an exercise in advertising or the satiation of a need to show ourselves in a certain way.
If your social life is not the same as the others, congratulations! There’s no need to view thousands of photos from a Saturday getaway or your dream vacation to know you had a great time. Think that all these memories and moments existed in reality, even though you didn’t have a window on the world.
