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Yes… as obvious as it sounds… your life is yours and no one else’s. The phrase by itself may seem redundant, but it is a reality that we have to savor and enjoy again. It’s a reality that we have to frame. In the same way that we frame the photographs that are important to us, it is essential that we not neglect this statement or leave it in the background.
Think about the decisions we make shape our lives. Both those that we take on our own volition and those that we take “through the influence of others”. Every decision is kept in our backpack of life. Each decision has a weight, more or less light, but a weight that we have to walk with. A weight that defines and shapes our lives.
Your life is yours and you make the decisions
We will often find ourselves wanting to make a decision that others do not approve of. Decisions that, on many occasions, are labeled innocent or rash… or are simply decisions that others cannot understand. People who love us may fear the consequences of making these decisions in our lives and for our future.
However, if you have taken the time to reflect, if you feel that there are changes you must make (drastic or less drastic, more or less anchored in “reality”), do not do this because of what others might say or because of how you you can “worry” the people who love you is to deposit your freedom far from the right place.
Life, after all, belongs to whoever lives it. Of course, there are decisions that must be well thought out in order to know the context that makes us take them. We sometimes make decisions when we are too angry or too elated, when perhaps it would be better to think about them when we are in a calmer state to identify our true desires.
Sometimes we blame others for our decisions.
But that task is ours. It belongs to us. Reasoning about our decisions, about the changes we want in our life, and our desires is totally legitimate if we feel like it. We cannot let ourselves be manipulated by this “fear” that others have regarding the decisions we want to make.
People who love us will understand that designing our path is a task of its own, with our values and emotions, with our thoughts and with our experiences… with our own original vision of life. We have to think if we want the life that others want for us. It would go against our nature. We would be doomed to a constant deaf feeling of unhappiness and inadequacy.
We would end up blaming others as a result of our lack of courage and courage. It was your fault! You were the one who told me not to do this!… No one else is responsible for our lives. To blame the other is to avoid being aware that life is ours, and that we are responsible for each of the decisions we make in it.
Others don’t make decisions for us. We take them ourselves. With fear or cowardice, with maturity or with responsibility, with the child inside us…
Life learning is born of our mistakes and our successes
All these contexts are lawful and there are essential margins for error. How boring life would be if we only made perfectly thought out decisions, “realistic” and well framed in the ideal life model that we often feel obliged to comply with!
You choose your life, its nuances and its colors. Can you get it wrong? Can you make some wrong decisions? But of course! We will make mistakes many times, but that will never mean a mistake by itself, precisely because learning comes from the “bad” and good decisions we make in our lives.
In fact, think: what experiences have you had that made you mature deeply and know what you want in your life and what you don’t? Think about it and live your life as you want to build it. Take your time and don’t beat yourself up too much for letting the people who love you down. They will understand that only you can decide what you want and what you don’t want in your life. And only you can see it.
Encourage this path!
